Kids naturally gravitate to crystals and stones. I've seen it time and time again. There isn't a child who comes into Body Mind & Soul who can resist the crystals and tumbles display. And the beauty is, they don't need a lot of fancy explanations to validate what they feel. Children are so open, so in touch with their inner muse. They know the stones are appealing, they know they make them feel good, and they know they want them. They don't need any more than that. They will sort through glass after glass of tumbles with as much care as any adult to choose the very right stone for them. And they usually naturally know how to use them--sleeping with them under pillows, carrying them in pockets, arranging them artfully in their rooms (sacred space!). They don't worry about explaining it to others. They don't care about the why or how. For them, it's just that simple.
I've had a lot of parents ask me about crystals and children over the years. Which stones to use for what? Are they safe? Are kids more sensitive? And so on. And I've been able to help a lot of concerned parents, grandparents, and the children in their lives through challenging situations with the help of some well-selected stones, including my own! I do believe children are naturally more sensitive to crystals. Not because they're physically or biologically different, but because they haven't built up the resistance to their own intuitive sense over the years that adults often have. And that makes crystals, which are a perfectly safe method of healing and agents of positive change, a wonderful choice for kids of any age in any situation.
Here are a few things to consider when choosing crystals or stones for your kids:
1. Safety first! While crystals are relatively safe, use reason. Avoid choking hazards and crystal toxicity. Some minerals contain toxic metals. Keep those out of your child's drinking and bath water. Make sure your child understands that as well. For a list of toxic minerals, go here. But also do your own research!
Also, consider the safety of the stones. Some minerals are splintery, such as tourmaline, selenite, or kyanite, and break easy. These may be better to avoid all together, or look for polished varieties that are a little sturdier. Very fragile clusters or druses may also be best to pass over, opting for a stronger single point or tumble.
2. Encouragement! Don't be afraid to let your child pick their own crystals or methods of healing. As I said before, children can be very intuitive. Just be sure you're overseeing them as they do. And encourage your child to trust their instincts and their crystals. Please, never shame a child for their beliefs or instincts. Teach them safety and give them room to move through their own process. Every person has a unique connection to every unique stone. There is really no right or wrong here. Just growth.
3. Educate! Crystals are a wonderful launch pad for getting kids excited about all kinds of things--science, spirituality, alternative healing, just to name a few. There are websites you can visit, gem shows and rock shops you can frequent, books to read together, and even hands-on experiments you can try! Dig or hunt for fossils, crack a geode, try your hand at polishing with a rock tumbler, grow your own crystals. When we connect with crystals and stones, we connect with the earth as our home and mother, we learn about how to care for her and ourselves, and we grow our species and the planet.
4. Listen! Pay attention to what your kids say or do in relation to their crystals and stones. Respect this communication and remember that they are using the only tools they have at their disposal to communicate their experiences to us. Do not dismiss them out of hand. Listen and put yourself on their level to understand. If they insist on keeping a stone in the closet, it may be too strong for them. If they want to carry a crystal everywhere they go, it may be providing them with something they need right now. If they seem agitated or more restless after bringing a crystal home, encourage limited exposure. If they seem calmer or sleep better, encourage more incorporation of that into their routine. While there's really no outright wrong or right, there is wrong or right for you or for your child. Feedback is crucial to sorting that out.
5. Have fun! Working with crystals and stones should be a fun, inspiring experience for you and your child. Don't force it. Take time to be present with your children and your stones. Let it be something that supports you both and adds to your life. And don't take it too seriously. That is a natural turn-off to kids. Lighten up, let loose, and allow your crystals and your children to guide you.