There are two main things at play in a psychic attack:
1. Someone is invading and negatively impacting your energy field in a non-physical manner.
2. Your own karmic and original (childhood) wounds are triggered and actively hurting.
Pain alerts us to the fact that something requires our acknowledgement and attention to heal. It lets us know something is not in balance within our being. Psychological and emotional pain are every bit as real and every bit as valid as physical pain. We all carry deep, original wounds which we have the opportunity to heal in this lifetime. Additionally, we inherit karmic wounds from our ancestors and family of origin, which we can also work on healing. But in order to do that work, we must be aware of them. That is where triggers come in. We will all experience triggers from time to time. They can come up in our day to day life, as we interact with our life partners, our children, our coworkers, and more. Experiencing a trigger does not mean the person on the other end of that interaction is responsible for your pain, and it does not make them a psychic vampire or even a psychic threat.
If you've known someone like this, then you know how challenging it can be to interact with them or even avoid them. In some cases, you may feel you don't have a choice. Perhaps your parent or boss is one of these people. In other cases, when you do have an obvious choice, you may find extracting yourself from the relationship is more difficult than expected. That is often a result of "trauma bonding", a.k.a. Stockholm Syndrome, where a victim begins to relate to their abuser. It is a valuable survival tactic in circumstances where an out is not readily available, such as with a child and an abusive parent. But when getting out is your best option (and getting out is always your best option in a case like this), then the trauma bond creates resistance to the act of leaving, and serves as a channel by which the abuser can remain energetically if not physically connected to the abused.
It is important to note that psychic attack is a form of abuse. And it is inexcusable. But psychic attack by its very nature is covert, meaning hidden or disguised. So the abuse will not be obvious, especially not at first.
As I mentioned above, there are two main things at play in a psychic attack, and the truth is, it's easy to confuse the latter with the former. In other words, rather than experiencing a true psychic attack, you may be experiencing triggers and then projecting your fear onto the person involved. In this scenario, someone causes you to feel hurt or afraid simply by virtue of who or what they are, and that fear is then projected outward, supplying you with the false belief that this person is actively and intentionally threatening you. We see this happen in racial, sexual, and religious tensions. And this kind of experience is born from the notion of "the other". But in a personal sense, it can happen to almost anyone, and maybe you can identify a time in your life where you reacted this way to someone. It is the equivalent of you having a bruise on your arm and someone bumping into you on the street. They didn't give you the bruise. They likely didn't even know it existed. And they certainly weren't trying to hit you there. But because you are in pain, you perceive that someone hurt you intentionally, and you hold them responsible for the wound you carried long before they arrived on the scene. The truth is, someone probably did hurt you, once upon a time, and you've been carrying that unhealed wound around with you, lashing out at anyone who brushes against it. This is not a psychic attack because you only have one of the two main points listed above. But it is a valuable opportunity to bring acknowledgement and attention to a core wound and begin the process of healing.
And that's where psychic attack can get tricky to diagnose because how can we ever be sure of someone else's intention? How do we know if we are actually experiencing a psychic attack or if we are just projecting? Ask yourself these four main questions:
1. How do I feel on average in the presence of the person in question?
2. What do this person's actions communicate to me, and do they match their words?
3. What intuitive nudges have I received around this person, and have they born out over time?
4. What has happened, or what do I believe would happen, if I directly challenged or questioned this person?
In the first question, we want to look at our feelings around someone on a cumulative scale. Anyone can rub us the wrong way here or there, but if we are consistently uncomfortable or at odds with someone, then there may be more going on.
In the second question, we want to measure a person's actions against their words. Psychic vampires will attempt to appear charming. They will often talk the talk, but rarely walk the walk. They're good at telling you what you want to hear, but how do they treat you? How does their behavior make you feel?
In the third question, we need to pay careful attention to our own spidey senses. This is your subconscious ability to pick up on cues that are in conflict with the image being presented to you. We can never be fully cognizant of all the data we are taking in. Wisdom is where intelligence meets experience, and intuition is subconscious wisdom. It is all the data we aren't consciously processing but that is being taken in, calculated, stored, measured against previous data, and then regurgitated for our safety and direction. So what intuitive hints have you gotten and if given enough time, have you seen any of them prove to be true? In many cases, we find that we have been suppressing our intuition in order to stay in the relationship.
And finally, in the fourth question, consider the person's history when directly confronted or challenged. How do they react? This is where you'll see the proverbial mask slip just a bit, and often nowhere else. If you haven't witnessed an incident like this firsthand, how do you imagine it going? As in the question above, we usually find we have intentionally avoided confronting these people directly because we instinctively recognize that it is unsafe.
Think of it like putting on a jacket. Do you run to the thermostat to validate and believe the feeling that you are cold, or do you just go and put on a sweater?
If after asking the above four questions you still feel unsure, you can:
- Try to communicate your concerns with the person in question (if they are indeed a psychic vampire, it will usually play out in their reaction)
- Choose to protect and work on yourself while remaining in the relationship
- Choose to protect and heal yourself outside of the relationship
Sometimes, people are simply obtuse or insensitive. After all, original and karmic wounds are not visible to the naked eye. Those around you cannot tell by looking where your triggers are. However, if you are truly dealing with a psychic vampire and you remain in the relationship, you are likely to discover that your attempts at protection and healing are far less effective if they are effective at all. That is because the highly skilled manipulator you are with is adept at disarming you. They do this by generating confusion and doubt, cutting you off of from your natural instincts and intuition, and hijacking your perception of reality.
In most cases, ending the relationship (whatever it's nature: romantic, familial, professional, etc.) with your psychic vampire is necessary. And while some scenarios may make you feel like you don't have a choice, it is important to remember that if you are a legal adult, you always have a choice. But ending a relationship with a psychic vampire is not like ending a relationship with a normal person. It is usually vital that you cut off all contact. And that means you cannot close the front door and leave a back window open. In other words, you can't stop seeing this person but continue texting them. Or you can't stop talking to this person but stalk them on social media. You will need to close all tangible channels the psychic vampire has to you: physical, verbal, written, and online.
And what's more, you'll have to work at closing the intangible channels as well. This involves disabling the energetic ties, or cords, they have to you. This can be the most difficult aspect of your journey to freedom, as it's not always easy to tell where these cords are or when they're active or not.
And lastly, after you have shut down all physical and energetic means your psychic abuser has to you, you will need to restore your psychic defenses, the broken trust you have with your own intuition and emotional guidance system, your sense of personal power, and your practice of self-love. Often, psychic vampires target individuals who already have a deficit in one or more of these categories. But even if that were not so, after interacting with a psychic vampire, each of these areas will be damaged and in need of conscious, loving awareness and nurturing—most importantly, that of self-love.
The practice of self-love often looks like giving yourself permission to do you.
When choosing crystals for psychic attack, you'll want to focus on:
- Stones for protection (think root chakra and earth star chakra)
- Stones for self-love (think heart chakra)
- Stones for intuition and psychic protection (think third-eye and crown chakra)
- Stones for personal empowerment (think solar plexus chakra)
- Stones for emotional release and regulation (think heart and throat and sacral chakra)
It may be too much to work with all these crystals at once. Instead, focus on each of these areas one at a time. For example, put protection and psychic protection first. Feeling safe is vitally important to access healing and forgiveness. Next, work on self-love and empowerment. And finally, use stones to help you process the emotional fallout of your relationship.
Consider practices like the ones below to help you on your healing journey:
- Use selenite or black tourmaline to cut energetic cords by running it through your aura as you visualize those bonds breaking
- Sleep with amethyst under your pillow to protect your astral energy when you are sleeping and prevent nightmares (a common sign of psychic attack)
- Create a crystal grid for self-love, beneath place a list of things you love about yourself and what makes you worthy of respectful, compassionate treatment
- Create a mojo for empowerment and carry it on or with you, holding it to your solar plexus whenever you feel that energetic gut-punch you have experienced
- Grid your room or home in labradorite to prevent energetic and physical intrusion
- Wear onyx to shield your aura and help you feel stronger
- Drink water infused with rose quartz to help you focus on nurturing and being kind to yourself
There are an infinite number of ways you can use crystals to help you with psychic attack. And because you have been through a form of trauma, support—even in the form of crystals—is critical to your recovery. Below are a list of some of my favorite crystals to work with to prevent (further) psychic attack:
- Onyx (hands down, onyx is my favorite crystal for shielding from psychic attack)
- Labradorite (a very potent psychic protection stone, labradorite is very effective for empaths and people who are especially vulnerable to psychic vampires)
- Rose Quartz (the ultimate crystal for self-love and self-care)
- Tiger Eye (Both protective and empowering, this one is great for the solar plexus)
- Amazonite (helps us own and speak our truth)
*Sidenote: If you believe yourself to be in any physical danger, it is important to get somewhere safe as soon as possible and enlist the help of other people rather than face your attacker alone. Please alert the proper authorities, or at the very least, tell someone you can trust.